My husband has good friends of 20 years whom have all participated in and condoned his cheating and lying for our entire 7 year relationship. Some of them even cheat on their wives too (which I discovered through my own investigating). I told him these friends must go for me to even consider reconciling with him (among many other things). He says they should not be "punished" for his behavior (and he's asked me not to tell their wives about their cheating). I don't see how he could ever be "safe" with them around and I could certainly never face their spouses knowing their husbands are cheating on them. Am I being unreasonable? Isn't part of making amends requiring major changes (jobs, places to live, people and friends, etc.?). In a book I read, these people were referred to as "enemies of the marriage/relationship" and I very much see them that way. Do you have any other advice/materials I could give to my husband on this subject?