Q&A Are We Doing Enough to Help Our Situation?

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My husband and I are in week 8 of EMS Online. We're almost 3 months from D-day. He confessed because he wanted to be right with God and with me and be usable by God. The affair was nine years ago with his boss while I was pregnant with our youngest son. He also cheated once with his serious girlfriend before me, while they were dating he had a one night stand with a bridesmaid at his friend's wedding. He says he had a porn addiction in college, but since we've been married, he just deals with it off and on. He even confessed to looking at porn shortly after we have sex, if I leave the house to go to the store. He thinks it is not an addiction if it only happens every few months. Does this sound like a sex addiction? If not, why? If so, what do we do to find help or treatment? What should that look like? We now have an accountability app on all devices, and he wants to find a group at church to hold him accountable when covid allows. He was exposed to porn starting at age 6, and simultaneously molested by the older boys who showed him the porn, though he says he doesn't feel like it was abuse. What do we do? He's planning on taking Hope for Healing. Is that enough help in our situation?



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