Q&A How Can I Learn to Cope and Handle the Hurt?

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Hello Leslie and John,
How can you get past or delay a moment of deep hurt from your spouse? My husband has left for the Affair partner and when I’m asking questions, some of my husband’s answers hurt me as much as finding out about the affair. I feel as if he is stabbing me with his words. 

On the other hand, I worry about him and I can tell he is in limerance by his choices and I feel he is being taken advantage of and I am not the person that can point that out to him. Will he ever come out of the "head in the clouds thinking"? Or could this last years? It's like common sense has flown out the window when it comes to the AP.

Lastly, I have completed Harboring Hope and I feel as if I need more daily interaction to keep myself up and positive. I need to keep learning and how to cope as more and more people find out and ask more and more questions. Do you have any suggestions?



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