Q&A Can I Get My Motivation Back?

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I don’t believe my husband has fully disclosed his affair to me. Four days ago I found emails that showed he was taking to the affair partner in 2017. I found out about the affair in 2019. My husband works with the affair partner so I told him that he needed to choose his family or his job. He worked from home for seven weeks after this. My husband has returned to working on site and the affair partner has been fired since then. Unfortunately his work is still a big trigger for me. He started going into work later and coming home earlier because I said something needs to change. But I feel so numb from the lies and deceit. I’m not sure how I can get it back either. I had motivation back in August and September when I thought he was working on us I just don’t know if I can get it back.



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We did emso and ended it in

We did emso and ended it in March then started married for life and on week 3. I am also in hope for healing and week 4 of that and he is going to start harboring hope april 7. Just need more. Need to feel it. We have been together 25 years and have 4 kids T home. Oldest 16 and youngest 4.

Thank you.

Thank you for the response to the question. I have no problem asking him questions I just feel there is more there I don’t know. And I am trying to wrap my head around the fact that he could do this to all of us. That he was willing to lose it all for someone else. But he always says the kids are so important to him. Why would he do this to us. It is truly a work in progress and does that time. It’s a marathon not a sprint. Thank you again!!!

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