Q&A Could He Be Telling the Truth?

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We are 5 1/2 months past D-Day. I received a shocking anonymous text about their affair. After many half-truths over the following week, he now says it is full disclosure and his heart is clear. My husband is in HFH and I start HH next week. We also see our therapist together weekly and individually. We’ve read many books together too. He is doing the work and says he wants to build a marriage better than before. I want that too. His sexual affair lasted three months. He met his AP on Instagram and she happened to live in the next county. She knew he was married and also kept their affair a secret as I’ve been told. She fed his need for validation. He was a good liar and I had no reason to be suspicious during that time. Now I hesitate to believe what doesn’t make sense in my mind and my quizzing leads to flooding, and he becomes defensive, telling me there are no more lies. He says that on overnight business trips, some trips were real and some were fake, he and the AP always slept in separate beds after sex. Have you heard that before? That makes no sense to me. What he did was bad enough, so why lie now? But I feel that this far after disclosure, he isn’t going to admit to any more half-truths or lies because it would be a setback, and since I have no proof either way, there’s no way for me to dispute what he says now. I am an analyzer and a problem solver by nature.

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