Q&A Do I Let Go of My Attachment to Her Now or Wait until Our Courses Are Complete?

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Tomorrow is my 18 year wedding anniversary. It has also been 6 months since we separated after I found out about her 5th different affair partner in the last two years. She has recently started "dating" other guys now. I believe she is wrapped up in a "love addiction" which has been going on now for at least 30 months. She has told me she has no remorse for her actions and no empathy for the pain she has cause me and our three young boys. She is about 8 weeks into her Hope for Healing class, and I am going into my 4 week of Harboring Hope. We have both signed the course contract that states we will not make any significant decisions until the course is complete. However, her actions continually point to the fact that she is done with this marriage. I am struggling to sever the attachment bond that we created. Do I let go of my attachment to her now or wait until our courses are complete? Do you have any helpful resources to help me let go of these deep "roots" that have been planted without ripping my soul apart?



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