I found out my wife was having an affair in October 2016. We have had many ups and downs but she is still seeing her AP at least once a week. She wants me to woe her and act like there is no one else in the picture but I have expressed to her that I can't do that right now because of the hurt and the fact that I don't feel safe. She told me last weekend that she wants to take the next step and end her affair but doesen't know how. Since that time she has withdrawn from me even more. I'm so confused and don't know what to do.