Q&A How Do I Handle This Lapse in Motherhood When I’ve Been Needed?

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I need input on a dilemma. January 18, 2020 my husband of 26 years confessed about 5 affairs in the last four years. Most were short online affairs involving sexting. The last one ended on D-day and was a physical affair. This was a stranger he met online, it was primarily sexual and not limerent as he wanted to stay in our marriage. This past year we’ve been to a counselor 1- 2 times a week, together and individually. He confessed to 4 of his dearest friends, to our pastor and one of our church elders. We completed EMS Online and are now in a Married for Life group doing the work. I have a 44 year old daughter from my short first marriage that has severe health issues and 5 children to care for. I have been less than stellar as her mom because I’ve been in deep grief, struggling through the pain. I’ve been absent with no explanation. She doesn’t know about the infidelity and I don’t want to burden her with the knowledge; it would also mean telling our two younger children who are 23, pregnant with her first child, and 21. How do I handle this lapse in motherhood when I’ve been needed? I know my oldest probably sees me as horribly unsupportive and that pains me. Do you have any advice?



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