Q&A What Should I Do with an Ambivalent Partner When a Baby Is Involved?

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My husband had an affair with a family friend for a month before he got her pregnant. His affair partner gave him an ultimatum stating that if he wanted to keep the child then he would have to divorce me. He told her yes but it has been 4 months since. His affair partner bought a one way ticket to another state saying she needed to figure things out because he hasn't followed through on his word. We discussed divorce but up until now he says he's trying to "figure something out" and he says they've been arguing a lot. Is it even possible to try and save the marriage at this point if my spouse has a baby on the way and is living with his affair partner but still doesn't know if he wants to let me and our two children go?



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I am in a very similar and heart breaking situation only the child was born and kept a secret for over 3 years and he has been living there! Lying and having our children there. It was discovered in April this year. He has said he doesnt and hasn't wanted a relationship with her and I feel I am being an idiot for having any hope. Its the worst possible scenario. I wouldn't want anything to do with the child. But I want to share this with him.

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