Q&A How Do I Handle My Wayward Wife's Friendships?

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One of the issues in our potential recovery revolves around some of my wife’s friends and their role that they played during my betrayal. She has three old high school friends that she used as alibis when she would go to see her affair partner. All of her friends knew the affair partner. In addition these girls went along with my wife’s infidelity even to the point of consulting with her on how to cover her tracks and discussing plans with them on how to leave me. Some of their messages with my wife that I saw made me feel like I was going back to the days of Jr High, like I was some has been boyfriend. They are all intimately knowledgeable about the whole affair and certainly know more than I. All of them are divorced. I view them as unhealthy and playing a part in the deception. If my wife and I are to reconcile one of our issues will most certainly be these relationships. As it is with the affair partner I do not feel safe with these ladies or with my wife continuing to have contact with them. She knows I am not happy with them yet she continues to have contact with them. Is it wrong for me to ask her to sever these relationships? If not how do you suggest I ask her to do this? I want to forgive them yet at the same time I don’t feel safe with them around.



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