How do I help my 15 year old son, who knows about the affair, heal? He's not the type to want to do counseling, but anytime he gets upset about something else, the anger and hatred he has for what his father has done unleashes. He wants me to leave him. My husband was contacting prostitutes and I had saved the text messages on my phone, and my oldest son saw them. I feel really stupid for not hiding them better, but I can't change that now. I've tried telling him that what his father has done has nothing to do with him, his brother or myself and that it's his dad's problem, not ours.