Q&A How Do I Process the Truth of What Has Happened?

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My husband was a practicing sex addict and had multiple affairs. D-Day was last December and since then, he has been 100% repentant and committed to recovery and I have been in a whirlwind of shock, anger and pain. We both did EMS and are in MFL and I am in Harboring Hope. I am choosing to give this time and have let him come back to live the in the house for the children's sake. The problem I am having is that I feel confused about my feelings since he is always right there trying to work on the things from MFL to connect with me. Yet this is the same person who has lied and betrayed me so I don't really want him near me and I am having a hard time grieving the truth of what he did and reconnecting at the same time. It is all very confusing and I desperately want him to leave so I can process fully what he did and have space and privacy. But him leaving would hurt the kids so I don't know what to do. We didn't have a good marriage for 16 years due to pornography and I feel the MFL course is pushing me to reconnect and build before I've processed the truth of what has happened.



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