Q&A Is There Hope for Our Marriage?

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Please help me understand what is happening here. D-Day was Feb 27, 2017 and direct contact ended in the middle of April. Against my wishes, he moved out at the end of July, but within days was desperate to move back home. All social media contact was cut at the beginning of August and passwords were shared. He moved home 3 weeks after moving out. Then we attended Sept EMS weekend. He maintains that he doesn't know what he wants and that although he loves me, there's no connection, no romantic feelings. Yet when we were separated and sometimes during the time post D-Day he couldn't keep away, was desperate to restore the relationship, feared I had contacted a lawyer, overt active flirting, passionate sex, etc. He recently said that he things this behavior was more about being alone, detachment distress. His roller coaster behavior is impossible to understand. I'm trying to focus on my healing, seeing a counselor, etc. He does not see a counselor and we're not in marriage counseling (his choice). Does he still care? Should I even think about restoring our marriage? Is there hope? Or would it be safer and healthier to cut my losses and move on independently?

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