There is a lot of information available when both spouses are working in some fashion of recovery. I don't find a lot of information or help for the following scenario. Most given advice is move on, get divorced, why would you want to stay married to someone like that unless something is really wrong with you? This is even coming from the betrayer. (Saying if you did what I did, I wouldn’t stayed married to you) It seems most of the time the betrayer has some remorse or recognition of what they have done but could you please address when the spouse of the betrayed is caught and their one regret is being found out? When they then decide to leave and not deal with any aspect of the marriage and or recovery. A long term marriage. What is the best way for the betrayed to work towards some type of amends in the relationship or reconciliation? Do you see that happening when later down the road they get beyond the shame of affair fog from blinding them? This is for when both the betrayed and betrayer have and or have been strong Christians with biblical values.