Q&A What Should I Do?

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Last year I caught my husband in a car at 3 am with his co-worker. He admitted that he was in an emotional affair for three years with her. I contacted her and she told me that she never liked him and never will, and that they were just friends. She promised to stay away from him, but didn’t stop the contact. We had counseling for two full days and decided to separate for three months to work on ourselves. After three months of separation he admitted that he got involved in multiple affairs. After five months of separation he moved back home but did not end the affair. A month ago told me that he was in a relationship with the woman I caught him in the car in the first place, but promised her that I will never find out about it. A week ago she ended their relationship because he didn’t want to leave the marriage to be with her, and now contacting him again. He is doing Hope for Healing more because I asked him to, but told me that he loves her and is here only for the kids and doesn’t want to engage in working on our marriage but wants me to act like we are together and everything is fine for family, friends and church. He also says wants to stay married and stop the negative behavior but his lies continue. He seems very sick to me. I’m fighting with a thought if I should contact her and tell her that I know the truth. He told if I do that he will leave me. I don’t want to divorce him but at the same time I can’t accept his behavior either. It’s not healthy for anyone. It’s devastating. I’m very hurt and emotional unstable. He spends hours chatting with her in front of me and the kids. What to do in this situation?



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