My husband has betrayed me for a span of 18 years with the last one being a full affair with a coworker who he fell in love with. There were 3 separate discovery dates. I feel so betrayed but most of all like a fool. I feel as if I can truly never trust him again. My heart is so very hardened to him. He has lied and betrayed me so many times. How can I ever believe he is telling the truth and most of all how can my heart and soul-soften to him again? Is it even necessary to do that? We can divorce and move on. I am having a hard time finding the need and reasons to reconcile. I will say that he is in treatment for his sex and love addiction as well as in other 12 steps groups. He just a week ago showed some true remorse for the first time. He is a good man, a good father and always loved me very much. He simply cannot be honest and faithful. Please help me. I am pretty desperate for help at this point....to try to not and if yes-why?