I have a need for my mate to affirm his love for me, that he has chosen me over his affair partner, that he is committed to us and is grateful for being able to rebuild our relationship on a daily basis. We are a year past the first D-Day, with 10 months of trickle truth and a failed polygraph which has created more pain and hurt for me. He has said that he is not responsible for my feelings. He takes full responsibility for the affair and hasn't minimized that, but it feels like he doesn't see providing that reassurance as a priority. I have told him what I need, I have sent him videos and articles articulating it in different ways, but it just doesn't remain consistent. I end up asking him again and then it feels ingenuine. He was able to show such affection when we first got together, and it is a point of hurt for me because I feel like he gave those things to someone else and now I am waiting for them to be returned. Are my expectations to high? What should he be doing to reinforce that love and value of me?