Q&A Is Attraction Actually Objectification?

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In the interview with Rick in Week 1 of the EMS Online course, Rick talks about exposing attractions towards people outside of the relationship to your mate and that this would lessen their meaning or power. What was unclear to me, though, is the following: If the unfaithful spouse finds people attractive very very easily (sometimes without even fully looking at them) and this impression is mostly based on body parts that are considered more sexual - would you still stand behind the approach that sharing this would help the relationship? In my mind, this looks like objectification more than just meeting people in life you will consider attractive. So is this something the unfaithful should be working on changing? I am very much against the objectification of women and have suffered tremendously from finding out that this was a huge part of my partner's acting out. As of now it is also unclear if he does this for pleasure or because he is so afraid he would objectify someone. Can you give me some insight into how we should approach this issue?



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