Q&A Can You Expand on Your Explanation of Arousal Templates?

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My husband never had a physical affair, but was addicted to pornography and had a vivid, lustful fantasy life. The section in the curriculum about a man's physical desire and the imprints left by an "arousal template" was so intriguing to me. Early on, as I tried to wrap my head around my husband's behaviors, I often asked him what he found alluring and tempting about the women he objectified. He always claimed he didn't know, which I found hard to imagine. This arousal template from childhood could give some reasons, although he grew up in a God honoring, loving home. Is there anything more you can address or expand upon with this whole idea of the arousal template? I look forward to you helping perhaps to shed more light on the "why" and maybe help my husband with any "false guilt." Neither of us excuse his behavior and choices. My husband takes full responsibility. We are so grateful for all we are learning in our small group.



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