Q&A Can You Give Me Hope in Light of My Wayward Spouse Choosing Divorce?

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Two years ago my wife confessed to having a two month emotional affair that turned physical by the end. The affair partner was an old high school boyfriend she reconnected with on social media. We went through EMS Online, Hope for Healing, and Harboring Hope immediately after. We also went to both couples and individual therapy here in town to heal from the trauma, understand why it happened, and hopefully reconcile. After two years of hard work and harder conversations, my wife decided to leave. From what I can tell she grew tired of trying and felt so worn out and disconnected from me that her best option was to just leave. We were married for 12 years. The divorce will be final in a couple months. This has been a devastating season to say the least. My heart breaks mostly for our two children, ages 6 and 7. I know I'll be fine. I'm sure I'll bounce back and move on with my life, even possibly get remarried. Any advice you could give a guy like me who gave it his all and tried staying committed to the vows he made to his family despite being betrayed in the worst way?



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