Hi Rick,

I have a question regarding feedback from our counselor. I think we have a very competent psychologist who practices Imago therapy to address the infidelity. This therapy has been wonderful in terms of communication between usI. I am, however, noticing that I've started to feel frustrated a bit with our counselor's attitude/approach to our situation. I am the betrayed and find she does a great job of helping my husband find self compassion, however I feel there is less focus on compassion for my situation. She does a lot to tell me I have to look at my issues. And while I agree that infidelity has brought up insecurity in me, I feel I have to protect my right to be wounded. These insecure feelings would not be present had infidelity not happened. I suppose she is wanting me to push past my feelings of indignation and righteous anger, but I end up feeling like I don't receive the same amount of understanding and compassion that my husband does. I guess I’m wondering if I need to start looking at the counseling differently? I guess overall it feels as though her goal for me is to put aside the ways I've been wronged, and her goal for my husband is teach him self compassion. I end up feeling like she doesn't "get" my hurt and anger. As a counselor can you help me understand this?