Hi Rick How does the betrayed move past the long history of lies to ever find truth in the betrayer words and actions? My husband has a very long history of being dishonest. DDay was about 11 yrs ago. Since that horrible day I continued to deep down feel as though there was more to his story. I continued over the years to ask and search for answers. I was met with anger for not believing him and defensiveness. It took me years to come to grips with accepting this had indeed happened. Now as a result of EMSO class I was given more information that had been left out of his story and now feel like I am back at square one. I might add that there were also other issues with not being forthcoming in regards to pornography use. I feel like a fool for allowing him to convince me that I was indeed wrong in my thinking. How do the betrayed begin to not only believe in themselves but in the honest attempt of the betrayer for safety and security?