Q&A How Can I Not Feel Like Plan B?

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Among other infidelities, my husband pursued a woman at his job who was interested in him a couple of weeks before our wedding. He told me nothing physical happened. Unbeknownst to me, he went to Atlanta to the strip club two nights before our wedding with his friends. He just admitted that he called the woman from Atlanta to see if she was still interested in him and that he told her he wished he had met her at another time. How can I ever feel like I was not plan B and that if she had reciprocated that he would not have married me? I don't want to think I will feel that way forever about our marriage. I would rather peacefully part ways and rebuild who I thought I was.



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This is so much like my story

This is so much like my story -- a fellow newlywed who discovered multiple infidelities. To whoever submitted this question, thank you.

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