We are 6 and 1/2 months out from discovery of my wife's affair. We have completed EMSO. I have tried very hard to forgive my wife and feel I have for the most part. I think the biggest problem we face now is her healing and recovering from this. She has so much self loathing and shame still. She hates to be herself. She can't believe who she became during her affair. She is learning so much about herself and sees things so differently now. She breaks down often about what she did. She struggled with self esteem before this so now it is 10 times worse. She feels so alone even though I try to be there for her. What's your advice for her as the unfaithful and to me as her betrayed husband in terms of helping her?