My husband of 32 years had an affair with a young co-worker. The girl has had numerous marriages and relationships. She married a co-worker and has dated several co-workers. She is quite sparkly with her pretty face, long blonde hair, long legs, tattoos, and body piercings. Although I do not look bad for a middle aged woman, I am very much the opposite of the AP. My husband insists that he loves me and that the AP was only an ego boost. We are told that affairs are about escapism and fantasy. A betrayed spouse cannot compete with the AP. Husbands almost always affair down. We have 80% of what our husbands want. One of a husband's basic needs is an attractive wife. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My question is, how is a betrayed wife supposed to cope when the 20% we lack is beauty?