Q&A How Do I Handle Secrets within My Partner's Family?

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I’m a betrayed spouse almost 2 years past D-Day. My husband and I working towards reconciliation but still have a long road ahead. I’ve gotten pretty far into my own recovery. I am working on forgiveness for not only my husband but others that had a role in the affair. My husband’s brother has been unfaithful to his wife with someone I know. He also knew of my husbands affairs and was supportive of them. I’ve recently had a conversation with him explaining that I am working on forgiveness for him and don’t know where yet I stand on reconciliation. I also encouraged him to be honest with his wife about his infidelities. I am not close to his wife as they live across the country. I know my husband wants to have some sort of relationship with him and I’m finding I’m having more compassion for that decision with boundaries. That would mean I would have to have a relationship to some extent with his wife. Would this be wise for my husbands recovery? And would it be wrong for me to have a relationship with her knowing what I know and not disclosing?



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