My husband had 5 one-night stands while he was married to his first wife. I didn't know that until recently. I found out he was having an affair in June. It was a 4 year affair and she lived in another state. They worked at the same company but she lived 6 hours away. They would communicate through email, texting and sexting. One thing led to another and they had sex 3 times and they would meet for drinks and lunch occasionally when we traveled to that state. Other times she would take him to and from the airport when he traveled there. Another thing he told me was that twice in 2016 he had kissed and fondled the lady that had been cutting his hair for the last 20 years. My question is how do I know that he's doesn't have a sex addiction with his history? He doesn't think he is a sex addict since he doesn't watch or look at porn and he doesn't go to topless bars or anything like that. I want to make sure he's getting the help he needs. He has a regular therapist and she doesn't think he has that issue. Who or how can we determine if he is a sex addict or not? I don't want to be back in this situation again if he isn't getting the right treatment.