I find that my husband and I have a pattern. It's not new, it's been this way from the beginning. We connect, I feel safe for a moment, I reach out. He listens for a little while, which makes me more secure as I share. Then he gets defensive and starts correcting my perspective. Then he tells me I'm wrong and starts explaining to me what "really happened" (his perspective). He then spend hours in monologue talking about himself and his pain without ever actually dealing with me. I feel like my broken heart is in a constant wrestling match with his ego for the microphone. Is this normal? Please advise on how I'm meant to deal with this.