In order to keep moving forward, to transform the pain so it won't be transmitted, my wounded spouse and I are working through every wound I inflicted during our decades-long marriage. I agreed to this so that we would have no lingering, festering wounds as we recover. However, it is definitely discouraging to find there was no good in me. I'm sure there was somewhere, but neither of us have been able to think of any so it hasn't really been tempered with affirmations. We do feel this is a helpful exercise but wow, is it emotionally difficult and draining. My question is: Do you think this is a good idea? How far back should we go? Any other recommendations around this "Truth in Love" practice?