Q&A Can Our Marriage Begin Again?

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My husband and I have only been married for a year. We did the Free First Steps Bootcamp for Surviving Infidelity soon after D-Day 6 weeks ago. I confessed everything to my husband after a long internal struggle with myself as to whether or not I should come forward to him. I told him everything because I knew that if we wanted to heal I had to be honest. My husband wants to forgive me and we want to re-make our marriage. I feel SUCH guilt and shame at my behavior, and I can't even begin to understand how he can be so loving towards me still and want to work with me to make everything better. Is there hope for a marriage that hasn't really begun? I don't know if I am worthy of his love or of still being with him. We have only told one couple in our family about this. I know that I am forever changed by this situation. I just want the best for my husband and I pray that this is the best for him. We have begun counselling both individually and together.

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Thank you

Thank you for answering the question I submitted. I was filled with emotion when watching this. My husband and I watched it together and he was happy to hear what you had to say.
There are a few other issues I am dealing with and that is why I am attending Individual Counselling....I was sexually abused for 5 years as a child (from ages 7-13) and the effects of being "hypersexual" have carried on long afterwards. I do NOT justify my actions by this. I have been physically, emotionally and verbally abused throughout my childhood and teenage years as well. I am working hard to recover and not let myself be a prisoner of the past. Forgiveness is HARD especially when I know that I am the one that created this all in the first place (with the affair).
Thank you for Affair Recovery. My Husband and I are really working together each day and taking everything one step at a time. I am learning to love myself.

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