Hey Rick, As a both I am finding myself wanting sex often. My sex drive is not "normal" and used to often scared the guys with how much I was into it. Once I was exposed to it, I enjoyed it! Thing is, Im not necessarily interested in having sex with this person I am legally married to: this man that has caused the most excruciating pain in my life. He's a sex & porn addict. I keep asking myself How could that be? I don't know how much longer I could continue to get what I want without having a "connection" with my spouse? We've both noticed that I tend to get super cranky when I don't "get any" We've done ems weekend and he's in recovery. I think that his lack of transparency and his selfish character defect is hurting my hopes for this marriage. We've tried the eyes open technique and yet I don't feel anything even during that! That's why I think I'm so broken and I will not be able to continue to have a relationship with him. If he continues to put his needs over helping me feel safe, I think I'm gonna have to plan a separation. I believe that will help me not to do is on this matter. What do you suggest?