Q&A Is It Okay to Seek Counsel from My Pastor Even Though My Spouse Doesn't Want To?

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Is it okay to seek counsel from my pastor even if my spouse doesn't want to? We were very close friends with my pastor and his wife, but my spouse has distanced from them, for various "reasons". I'm seeking spiritual healing.



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This is an issue I'm

This is an issue I'm experiencing; my wife is close friends with our pastor's wife and when the affair was discovered, we had been seeking marriage counseling from them. Now, my wife doesn't want to continue with that counseling as she can't bring herself to admit the affair to them. I understand the struggle for her to a degree; it's awkward and embarrassing. Unfortunately, I don't feel right moving on without counsel from our pastor.

My compromise has been to see spiritual counsel from another pastor who is not related to the situation at all. I'm not sure if that's the right decision, but I still feel the need to protect my wife.

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