Q&A Is It Possible for Something like This to Not Change Us?

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The curriculum in EMS Online Week 12 talks about a negative lens and says, "The discovery of the infidelity caused the image of the unfaithful husband to vanish". It says, “They both have a negative view of the other. Both feel they must have made a mistake in marrying the other”. Then it goes on to say that, “Neither of them really changed, all that changed was their perspectives. Bob was still the same man Janine had loved and Janine was the still the same woman but each lacked the ability to see the truth about the other." I'm confused because I feel that both of us have changed and are not the same people we married. I know I am not that same person and I know my husband is not the same person. He is working on the lying, however he still lies at times. He is working on the other behaviors that led him to where he is. He is definitely not the same man I married and I am definitely not the same woman. How can we not be changed? How are we lacking the ability to see the truth about each other especially if we are still knee deep in stuff?



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