My affair was with my licensed biblical counsellor whom I worked with in regards to issues in my marriage. In my search for support surrounding this issue - separate from the journey of healing that my husband I are on post D-Day, I have been advised that you cannot have an affair in a relationship where there is a hierarchy of power, such as with a counsellor. However, my husband experiences the pain and triggers of a betrayal. It seems the only way to save my marriage is to treat it like I’ve betrayed him and yet, I too, feel betrayed and at times struggle (silently) to take full accountability for what happened. I’m very confused.