Q&A Why Do I Still Respond Physically like I Am Lying When I’m Telling the Truth?

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Since my final disclosure about a month ago, my husband has continued to ask if there's anything else I need to tell him. I have shared everything except for details that we have agreed to be on a want to know basis. I have offered to sit down and write all of the events that led up to my affairs to give him a solid understanding of what happened. I have also offered to submit to a polygraph. Despite all of this when he asks me if there is anything else I need to tell him, he examines me intently looking for physical tells that I am lying. I know I am not lying but for some reason I still respond physically like I am with a twitch of a facial muscle, a racing heart, nervousness, or fluttering eyes. I don't understand why I still have these responses despite my honesty. It's really not helping my husband feel safe and it definitely isn't helping me rebuild his trust.



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