I have realized that I contracted an STD from my husband’s previous affair partner. My question is, should I tell his most current AP that she should be checked as this was contracted before her? She deserves to know, and I want to do the right thing. On the other hand, she has gotten tested - though I don't know the results. Does she need to know the particular positives or should I leave well enough alone? My husband has already gaslighted me messaging her (not him), but now I don't want to stir the pot.