Hi Rick, The article called "A Betrayed Spouse's Journey: Rewriting the Journey" warns against "daily evaluation" of your unfaithful spouse. This "only gives a false sense of control and safety." Do you have any advice for women whose unfaithful partners are dealing with addiction? Should we try to have no reaction at all when our partners show the mood swings that typically lead to porn use, drinking, cybersex, or hours wasted on the web or a smartphone? If you turn a blind eye to these moods and behaviors, you're being co-dependent right? With an addict, it's hard to figure out when you're letting go of your own obsessive thoughts vs. putting your head in the sand. -Thanks for your help and all you do.