Q&A Upcoming Divorce, Holidays and Children - More Pretend Normal?

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Dear Rick, We are 5 months out from Day and my husband and I attended the EMS Weekend 3 months ago. We completed Beyond EMS with our small group but he does not want to continue with Married for Life and has decided it is time to end the marriage. I want him to move out of the house in the next few weeks. He does not want to as our 3 adult children who live out of town will be home various times around the holidays. I get that but feel uncomfortable with him in the house not wanting to continue in the marriage. What are your suggestions for a moving out time frame and then for navigating the holidays with the kids? The kids know we are having some issues but don't think they realize we are talking about a divorce. Do we tell them of the coming divorce before they come home or before they leave or after the holidays? Are the holidays going to be more pretend normal? I am so tired of pretending. My head is spinning just thinking about the holidays. Not sure what is the best way to handle the situation. What are your thoughts? Thank you!



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