Q&A What About Financial Safety?

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Hi Rick - Sex addiction was important in my husband's infidelity. Four months after DDay, I found him using the kind of pornography that sends people to prison for ten years. We are doing well in our marriage recovery and he's doing deep, very painful therapy on family-of-origin issues and addiction. He is sometimes depressed and last week, I found him watching porn, despite the filters on his phone. I think he's lied to me--and to himself--about the seriousness of his porn addiction. This makes me feel very unsafe. An arrest and trial would destroy our savings, as well as his reputation and career. Al-Anon tells me to listen to the little voices in my head. I keep getting this crazy idea of separating our money, but staying in the relationship as we "work our programs." If his secret life leads to an arrest, separate bank accounts would protect my life savings. How should I approach this idea that keeps coming up? Thank you!



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