Q&A What Boundaries are Needed to Keep my Family Safe?

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Question: 

Hi Rick,

How should I handle this situation: Discovered my wife’s multiple affairs (via cheating websites, etc.) earlier this year and at first she did not want to stay in the marriage, had disconnected emotionally from me. After attending a marriage conference in Feb. 2015, she changed her mind and recommitted. However 2 months later, another affair occurred and came out in May 2015, and now she is back to not wanting to be in the marriage. She reports breaking off the relationship, said it was a moment of weakness, but continues to act selfishly and spends a lot of time with "girlfriends" out side the home. My question is, how do I handle her still living in the home with our 6-year-old daughter, and myself? She does not have the finances to move out. I struggle with experiencing her cold behavior toward me as I would like to save our marriage but also do not want to chase her. I want to set boundaries to keep our family and myself safe. I feel like I’m in limbo. How would you suggest someone handle this situation?

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Thank you for your response to this question. What would you suggest in this exact scenario if the spouse was actually found to be continuing unfaithful behavior (ie. chatting with other men on dating websites, etc.)?

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