Q&A What Does Consent to Sex Look Like in Marriage?

When I am angry or emotional I don't withhold sex on purpose but I feel turned off I guess. We are 2 years post d day and doing ems online. Last night is a good example of this issue. We'd had a difficult night discussing various issues in our relationship and my husband still wanted sex but I didn't. This turned into hours of him 'trying' by touching me, trying to pull my pants down , me saying no. Then by nearly 1am he said he needed to have a crank to get to sleep so started and then pulled my pants down again. I just gave in at that point to get it over with. We usually have sex 5 times a week often everyday and sometimes up to 3 times a day. This is his sex drive not mine. But I do enjoy and want to have sex maybe 3 times a week. I don't really get to say no.. and I feel like his multiple affairs and sexual encounters are perhaps a sex addiction that he is now acting out with me. Is there something wrong with me? I feel like I should be able to say no and that's the end of it. But it never is. I have no idea what to do and this has been an issue for most of our marriage but since the affairs I just mostly give in and say nothing. This doesn't feel like love though.

Rick's Suggested Resources:

• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski 
• Restoring the Pleasure by Penner & Penner