Rick, Just finished EMSO. It truly saved my marriage. However, now that it's over, it seems the intimacy we were developing is quickly fading. My husband is struggling with an old issue that has been very destructive to our relationship, especially since I am the one who had been unfaithful. My husband has sexual fantasies involving me with other men. It was one of the things that pushed me over the line, taking it from an emotional affair to a physical one. It truly complicated the situation and now complicates our recovery. He says the physical aspect of my affair didn't bother him as much as the emotional. I believe I made a huge mistake sharing so many details of my physical relationship involving my AP with my husband. His reasons for wanting those details were very different than most betrayed spouses. I don't believe he is a sexual addict, but he has struggled with this issue our entire marriage. I really don't know what to do. We have worked so hard and come so far in our recovery. I am so confused by all of this. I guess I'm wondering what marital sex looks like in a Christian marriage. What role, if any, should fantasies play in the marriage bed? My self-worth plummets when I share these fantasies. He readily admits he struggles with this issue, but is very reluctant to get any type of counseling for it. He is very ashamed by it. Please help.