We are making progress. Each day is better than the previous one. I realize infidelity is just a symptom, albeit the most devastating, of the deeper maladies in the flawed belief system of an individual. The recovery entails addressing the problems holistically and, thus the healing brings in wholesome improvement in all spheres of life. It affects all relationships not only with you, your spouse and people in your inner circle but also people outside of it. When my mate floods, why do I get distressed in turn? It is not fear. It is not hopelessness. Is it my pride, shame or guilt? I am not too sure. Feel confused. How can I help myself in this situation?