Q&A Why did he Marry me when he was with her?

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Since my unfaithful future husband started an intimate relationship with his future adulteress prior to our marriage, how can I work through this intensive pain and mistrust? I thought I married the man of my dreams. He is a Christian, and I never thought he could do such a hurtful thing. He treated me like I was special and the love of his life. He can't tell me why he even married me, while he was courting someone else. His wedding vows to me were a lie before we even started our marriage. Thank you for any insight you can give me to deal with this nightmare.



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"new set of vows"

Rick/Counselors, please talk more about this (new set of vows). About the logic, why it is important, how it should be done, when it can be done, if it is possible. I am in this same situation described in this video except they were using porn/masturbating multiple times a day and causing sexual trauma for me from our wedding night until D-Day and *IF* we can build something new, then making new vows makes sense to me. Thanks for your wisdom.

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