Q&A Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me?

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Hi Rick,
I been married a little over a year after being together nearly 12 years. Around our 6 month wedding anniversary was dday 1&2. We've taken your courses but many questions still linger. 

I recently found out that several of our groomsmen, and my husband's friends knew that he was a serial cheater with numerous bar hookups and one night stands. None of these cowards bothered to tell me this important info before our families spent nearly six figures and two years planning an epic dream wedding. These awful people even had the audacity to act pretend surprised when I told them. None of them have apologized for withholding the info, so I have removed them from our lives and told my husband that as part of his recovery, he needs new friends. 

If I had any indication that my husband was a cheater, I would have called off the wedding and gotten him treatment before making any life altering decisions about marriage.
What is wrong with these people? If that was me, I would have told the bride (and I have done that before for others.) Seriously Rick, how did these people live with themselves knowing they were enabling my husband's behavior and hiding a life altering secret from me? How did they sleep at night? I'd like to know so I can avoid these types of toxic people in the future.



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