Before I had an emotional affair I had very low libido. During it, my libido shot through the roof. Now that it is over I notice my libido is basically at zero again! I also notice an attraction to other men but not really my husband. My husband is an attractive man! I really want to wave a magic wand and only want to be attracted and attached to my husband. I'm feeling pretty hopeless right now, and wondering when I will feel these feelings towards him, and even wondering if marriage is worth it. I don't feel interested in renewing vows, and wonder if I will. I don't want to be trapped in the shadow world. Is that complete selfishness talking?! I just need some hope. It has been 8 months since D-Day.