Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

Hope Rising 2020 Announcement

Hope Rising 2020

If you're the betrayed spouse, I want to invite you to our 3rd Annual Hope Rising Conference, (now Virtual!) where speakers will speak into your specific situation of infidelity and help guide you through the recovery process. It's not as hopeless as you think.

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"It is possible to get to the point where you don't think about this every day. Where you're not triggered, and you can begin to believe the best again."
– Samantha, Hope Rising 2019 Speaker

We are excited to announce that registration is open for our Third Annual Hope Rising Conference! We understand the pain and turmoil that betrayal brings. This one-day, virtual event for betrayed spouses features infidelity experts and survivors who want to share insights, strategies, resources, and hope with YOU.

Here is a special message from our Co-Keynote Speakers for Hope Rising 2020:

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"I benefited most from the encouragement and strength that came from listening to hopeful, compassionate, confident, wise, guiding words from speakers who are on the other side of this journey."
–Hope Rising 2019 Attendee

Affair Recovery contributor and co-author of Harboring Hope, John Mark Haney, PhD, LPC, spoke at Hope Rising 2019 on The Myths of Infidelity & The Threat to Human Identity. His talk was a highlight in itself, and we are thrilled to share a video recap with you today of his informative and inspiring message:

To hear John's talk in its entirety, and to hear from other speakers, purchase Hope Rising 2019 On Demand here.

Hope Rising 2020

Join us online Saturday, October 10th, 2020, for Hope Rising 2020. We have a virtual seat saved for you.

"Will I allow what I'm going through to refine me or to define me?"
–Shelley Martinkus, Hope Rising 2019 Keynote Speaker

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Obsessive Liar

My husband said it wasn’t an affair that it was just about SEX. He didn’t care for any of the women. He cheated the first 12 years of our marriage; we’ve been married 51 years.

Has he not cheated after

Has he not cheated after those 12 years? Is he still lying to you about things? We’ve been married 33 years and discovered the affair 3 1/2 years ago and he’s been a perfect husband since then but I still don’t trust him, probably never will. Are you trusting him now?

So so sorry.

I think he has some way to travel yet. Maybe it was just about sex, and he didnt care about the other women, but that still doesn't make it right. I hope you get the right help, for you. And hopefully your husband as well

Horrible

I’m so sorry to hear this, may I ask when you found out, was it just recent? Or you found out back then but have since reconciled? Either way kudos to you for being able to move past such deceit. I struggled for about 18 months putting together the facts of a 7 week affair that had just happened, I can’t imagine piecing 12 years of deceit together!
My heart goes out to you.

Obsessive Liar

My husband said it wasn’t an affair that it was just about SEX. He didn’t care for any of the women. He cheated the first 12 years of our marriage; we’ve been married 51 years.

Just sex

I know the feeling 52 years of marriage wish I could take away your pain but as you know it never goes away
God bless

How long does it take

Is was Dec 31 2016 when I discovered my husband’s year long love affair. Daily texts of love, emails of leaving and promising a future with her. Romantic words like I never heard in our 30 years together. When he was caught He dropped her immediately but he was never honest or open with me about the affair. Lies after lies and I would find out the truth myself. He is a model husband now. Much more romantic, more affectionate where he never was with me but I cannot get past all of the loving words he said to her and how horrible and cold he treated me that year. Every single day, several times a day I think about it. I have done hope for healing, we’ve done the couples thing, we’ve had counseling and I’m stuck in this funk.

He told me Dec. 2017. Had to

He told me Dec. 2017. Had to, my 62yo spouse was going to be a daddy again with his 27 yo employee. I too get intrusive thoughts almost daily. I want it to stop. I have taken HH. How to make it stop?

Love texts

It was June 2019 when I accidently came across love texts from my husband to a 30 year old co worker. A husband of 44 years. Same exact thing. Words of love. How much he missed her. This emotional affair went on for 5-12 years.
I had no idea. But now I understand how the last five years were miserable. How he treated me, no words of love to me because he was giving them to her. He ended it, but the damage has been done.
Since d day he has been trying to be the perfect husband, but he has ruined any trust I had. His words to me dont really mean anything like they did many years ago.
To say those words to another woman and then expect those words to mean the same thing to me is a joke.
I wake up every day with those love words to her in my mind.

Lying

Yesterday I just found out that he has been communicating with her again, covering it up, and then bold-faced lie to me about meeting with her. He is now 64 and she is 29 and their daughter is about to be 2 yrs old. He said she wants him to start restart regular visitation again but also told him that her relationship with the other married man she was having an affair with at the same time as with my husband. He had promised to let me know immediately is she contacts him. So communicating behind my back with her and covering it up, secret get together with her, bold face lying to me when I asked where he went after work. Deja vu. Over 2 ½ yrs of trying to regain trust down the drain. Any suggestions what I should do now?