Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

The Number One Issue And How To Recover From An Affair

Do you know the number one question couples ask in recovery? What’s the number one concern when learning how to recover from an affair? I’ll let you know in a moment, but first I want share a story. When my middle daughter was in high school, she decided to be a cheerleader. I was fine with it; how could she get into trouble doing that? What type of trouble could she get into leading cheers, right? I remember the first game sitting in the stands waiting for her début as a cheerleader. W…
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Why Is Trust The Number One Issue In Recovery?

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on

Your one statement really says it all for me, "Until you believe your mate understands your pain and that they grieve over what they’ve done to you it’s hard to trust."  It has been 5 years since discovery and things are good, maybe even in many areas better than ever, but I have never felt that he grieved for what he had done or realized the cost.  The operative word there being "felt" and feelings are not always fact.  However, trust is really slow coming for me because I haven't felt there was much regret.

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