For years I worked hard at not being a disappointment. I wanted to avoid disappointing my parents, my teachers, my friends, my employer, my mate, my children and myself. Have you ever done the same? Maybe it's just me, but I think there is certainly a significant portion of our society that shares my fear of being a disappointment. Those of us who "fear being a disappointment" (FBAD) work diligently to gain the approval of others. We try hard to please, because we are afraid to find out what …