Today I share both my healthy and unhealthy reasons for staying and how they saw me through to the other side.
Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for women dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.
Samuel continues the discussion on safety and how to cultivate a safe atmosphere for you and your spouse's potential recovery.
Today we start a new series on how to trust your mate and know if your mate is trustworthy after an affair.
Samuel discusses the drive home before disclosure, deciding whether or not to tell Samantha about his affair.
Often times spouses want to make a decision about their crisis right this moment. However, when dealing with infidelity that approach usually backfires.
Today let's discuss the concept of denying your reality in recovery and how dangerous this denial can be.
Today I share my top three biggest struggles early on in recovery.
One of the lies the betrayed spouse believes is that they will always feel the way they do at discovery. Today, I share the story of two trips and how feelings can change.
Often times in recovery, betrayed spouses are frustrated as their unfaithful spouse won't take action. Today, I offer ways to deal with this refusal to get help.
In recovery after an affair, we all hear voices. If you're just listening to your own voice, it may be continuing to blind you.
Leading up to an affair and in recovery afterwards, there is much self deception that takes place. It's the toughest of deceptions and can't be battled alone. Today I look at how to combat self deception and allow yourself to see the truth you didn't allow before.
It's a destructive pattern for either spouse to say how they would describe themselves if they were on the other side of the affair.... Today we'll talk about why.
Have you ever said to yourself, "I thought my marriage was fine....I thought we were doing great."? Infidelity has a way of uprooting our entire life's momentum and today I discuss how to move forward practically.
After discovering my husband's infidelity, sadness and loneliness were safe emotions, but they morphed into something entirely different under the weight of denial.
Affairs are about escaping . Today, I discuss the nature of affairs and escapism and how to avoid relapsing.
What about the unfaithful, do they just get away with it all? Today Samuel discusses and confronts the desire for revenge in the heart and mind of the betrayed.
Early on after discovery, Samantha said she hated me. It's a normal emotion of the betrayed but requires the right approach to diffuse the intensity of emotion.
Affair Recovery is now taking community to the next level with adding Private Messaging “PM” functionality. Everything you need to know about private messaging at Affair Recovery is laid out for you below.
1. Click on Private messages in the menu on the left-hand side of the screen from your dashboard.
2. Next click the yellow “write new message” button.
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If you've experienced infidelity on either side, you've most definitely experienced an indescribable amount of sorrow. Today I discuss how to not waste this pain and truly experience healing and restoration in your own life, regardless of what side you're on.
It's a common struggle: understanding why the unfaithful are so angry, when they are the one's who've cheated. Today I discuss some very common reasons why the unfaithful struggles with anger early on in recovery.
After discovering an affair in your marriage, it's difficult for either partner to know where to turn and who to talk to. Today, Steve discusses this challenge and offers tips for both partners to practice when deciding who and when to open up to.
Today Samuel shares a humorous example how we the unfaithful, many times just don't see things the way we should. The unfaithful just can't see how their actions have affected the betrayed and has no clue how to show empathy for what they can't wrap their mind around.
What do you do when one spouse is glad the secret is out and they can finally breathe while the betrayed spouse, however, has just started their recovery and is traumatized. Here are some thoughts on how to navigate a very difficult situation for both spouses.
It's not uncommon to see the betrayed spouse wanting the marriage more than the unfaithful. When this happens, take heart, there is hope and there is a strategy to implement.
When an unfaithful spouse has an affair, they are unhealthy and not seeing or thinking clearly. But is it appropriate to expect an unhealthy person to be making healthy choices? We set ourselves up for failure when we expect an unhealthy person to make healthy, responsible choices.
Are you a betrayed spouse, chasing your spouse into recovery? Today I discuss why that is probably doing a disservice to the recovery process and the ultimate restoration of your marriage.
Often times in recovery, unfaithful spouses will say "my affair is just a symptom of deeper issues." Today I discuss what that statement actually says to the betrayed spouse and how to get to the deeper issues in marriage and recovery.
Marriage is not easy. When you add infidelity to the mix it’s even harder. Then you try to add effective communication and it can feel like a disaster waiting to happen. If you're like me, the art of communication can feel more like a wrecking ball than an art. This wrecking ball is on a mission to destroy everything in sight: relationships, personal growth, or even a joy-filled life. Early after D-day, there were a ton of unanswered questions and thoughts that would plague my inner world. Time and time again when I would approach my husband to seek information, it was more of a destructive hit to our recovery than a helpful conversation. The wrecking ball would come crashing in through screaming, crying, or straight anger. Clearly NOT helpful. I started...
I would like to tell you about one of the heated discussions I had with Rick about how things can fall into place into place in recovery, though it often times seems hopeless.
Today I share a recent traumatic event with my daughter that served to remind me of recovery and relapse prevention.
